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Estee mentioned in her blog:

Human tends to looks at the negative and remember than they remember good things.

I doubt the validity of this statement in catholic situations, because variations in personality and constant stimulation from the society could alter the course of the human perception and thinking. However, this statement largely reflects the human nature. Up till today, there is no clear theory of the genesis of human race, and I choose to believe God created us. There are also evolutionists believing mankind was evolved from the chimpanzees and their similar races. Despite this disagreement, these thoughts converge into the conclusion that human race starts with more neutral and negative influence and process them in their life span. Let’s take a look from these two perspectives:

  1. In the Bible when God first created Adam, God told him to avoid bad things. I read the Bible because I choose to believe in Christ. And words inside the book are precious to me, for they represent the authority from God. Skipping the process how God settled with the world, He created Adam to look after Garden of Eden. The command God gave to Adam is as follows: “(Genesis Chapter 1) [16]You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; [17]but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die.” This is a long sentence to read, but can you see that the emphasis is on the second half? God himself remind us more on the things we should not do, so we can remember and choose to avoid them. There are many examples and words in the Bible reflecting this idea of avoiding the wrong. However, the purpose is not to remember these bad things for the sake of remembering or avoiding, it is to Remember the bad things, while always clinging to the hope of blessing and cherish it forever once it comes.
  2. Living situation in primeval era was way worse than now. Let’s assume human race evolved across the centuries to gradually acquire the abilities of independent thinking, vocal communication, diverse emotions etc. According to Darwin’s evolution theory, natural selection is the main method in the evolution. The question now is how much died during the course of natural selection? Knowing that various researches show that chimpanzees are the closest species to mankind, and they communicate using gestures instead of words, we can conclude for a long period of time, people do not have language or advanced mind to think independently. Comparing those time when even fire was scarce with current era when medical facility is widely available, the death rate in those times are greatly higher. The lack of recording vehicle as well as language largely limited people’s abilities of passing on information to a large community. When people near to them die from incident or illness, those living around them will suffer the negativity brought by the separation, overcome that experience and live on – avoid the same incident is possible. And this process repeats for most living groups. Most people then learned from negative things, thus wired to avoid the mistakes so that to explore more in their life.

As seen from these two perspectives, the instinct developed in us will cause us to remember bad things more clearly in our mind. We have the ability to take in negative things and convert them into alerts and things to avoid. Still I believe while we are processing the negative, we need moments of blessing and times of victory when we learn to cherish the positive and be more motivated in our lives.



  1. eStee says:


  2. Moksh Juneja says:

    WOW!! that was really really thought thru. I think it is completely “people learn from their mistakes…”

  3. ankitguglani says:

    Talking about negatives, we even use them much more than positives when we speak, and speech and language have a deep connection with thinking and memory (eg.: Sapir-Whorf).

    Yet, it’s not true that we always remember only the negatives, we remember only what we want to remember, all our memories are reconstructed, they aren’t really *REAL* memories. As an example in case of a psychic-reading, we tend to remember the the hits (even the small ones) and forget/ignore the misses.

    Not all of us remember negatives alone, many of us do learn to look at the “bright side” of death … =)

    Life’s only as good as you make … so, make if good, ok?

  4. eStee: thank you for dropping by to comment and writing your wonderful blog, from which I indeed find some quite interesting things to ponder and write about.

  5. @Moksh: thank you for dropping by through pownce. I agree with you, to an extend “people learn from their mistakes…”. What we are discovering here is why people has the tendency to make mistakes and why most people’s instinct when facing danger is to avoid rather than to take on the challenge.

    @ankit:Sapir-Whorf hypothesis states the language people use dominates people’s thinking which inevitably helps the language to evolve as well. I think this explains why people from countries like China and India has a more complex logic. And about the psychic reading, you mentioned one rule of it, Darren Brown has more to say in his book pure effects.
    I disagree with your perception of this world on ‘many of us do learn to look at the “bright side” of death’

    Quote estee here:
    Live like today’s your last but plan for the future.

  6. bitbot says:

    Well I agree with the 2nd part of the statement “remember than they remember good things.” This is especially true in females. Statistics have shown that females in general remember all the bad things / mistakes that happen to them, and in some cases hold a grudge for a loooong time (and some forever). Males in general on the other hand are more forgiving.

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